Dear E’s Music Teacher,
I understand that E’s class is singing a song in the upcoming concert entitled “Who’s A Lady?” My understanding is that the girls alone stand and do dance-like motions; the boys do not. I would like to respectfully request that E be allowed to sit with the boys during this song.
As you may or may not be aware, there are some people that don’t fit neatly into the male/female gender binary. There are hundreds of thousands of children and adults who do not comfortably identify with the gender that they were assigned at birth. We consider ourselves lucky that one of these amazing people ended up in our home: E. I say lucky because, while it certainly has its challenges, raising E has also been a classroom that not many people get to experience. She teaches us so much everyday about how to look at the world. In that classroom, we are her students. And with deep respect to all that you have taught her over the years, I would like to propose that today you be her student as well. Separating children by gender, as opposed to ability or inclination, is something that forces a gender binary that makes many of them feel profoundly uncomfortable.
I know this is a lot to take in. Thanks for considering my request.